A Question For The Married Folk or Those With a Long Track History with Someone Special
I was recently sent a link to this blog, Today's Letters, a blog dedicated to sharing the letters one girl writes to her husband each day, and decided to take a closer look. It's a sweet documentation of their life together after five years of marriage and it reminded me a little of what our lives were like three years into our own. As many couples with children will testify your life shifts when you add little ones and those lingering dinners, spontaneous weekends, or even Saturday mornings spent in bed seem fewer and far between (if at all!). It takes a lot more effort and a few good babysitters to spend some uninterrupted time together in hopes of staying connected.
Recently, Brett and I have stepped back and taken a closer look at our marriage to see where we might need a tune up. It's opened up some conversation about what we want from each other, where we can make some changes, where we need to steer our path together, etc. and given us some things to think about. We're going on eight years this June (yay!) and have all kinds of hopes for the many years ahead of us as a couple, as well as a family, and appreciate that it's going to take hard work and a lot of grace to have the kind of marriage we want.
That said, I'm curious to know how some of you are making it work in practical ways. What kinds of gestures do you make to show your love, appreciation, admiration, etc. to the other person in your relationship? What kinds of things are the most meaningful to you? I've read the 5 Love Languages and a gamut of other healthy marriage books but I'm most interested in the specific things that are working in your lives these days. A little bit of curiosity and a little bit of a need for some good ideas.
Because it's always been worth it. I love you, Brett.